We discussed one of the reasons that women aren’t attracted
to skinny guys in the last chapter: They don’t want to feel fat and being
with a guy who is skinnier than they are makes them feel fat even if they are
at their ideal weight. A woman’s self esteem is a delicate thing. They
are constantly bombarded with images of what an ideal woman’s figure should
be and 99 times out of 100 they just don’t match up to the airbrushed
perfect images they see on TV and in magazines and this really bothers them.
A woman will spend a good deal of her time and money on things that will make
her look better and feel better about herself. She will buy and wear nipping
and tucking undergarments no matter how uncomfortable they are. She will spend
oodles and oodles on cellulite creams, weight loss pills and the latest exercise
DVD sensation. She’s not about to destroy all that hard work by standing
next to a skinny guy who makes her look fat by comparison!
Beyond her own sense of self esteem, there are evolutionary reasons that a woman
is attracted to muscular men. It is actually programmed right into their genes
to seek after a strong, muscular man. It has a lot less to do with her thinking
the guy looks sexy than you might believe. You see, in the woman’s subconscious
is the belief that a strong man will be a better provider for her and her future
children. Back in the caveman days, a strong, muscular man would’ve been
the best choice for hunting and providing a good source of food for the family.
He also would’ve been best suited for defending the family from dangerous
predators. Of course, nowadays, a computer geek may be better able to provide
financially for a woman, but her genes don’t know that! She can’t
help being attracted to those bulging muscles and contoured physique…it’s
in her programming! Aside from the subconscious belief that a muscular man will
be a better provider and protector is the belief that he will also provide genetically
superior offspring. Even though neither men nor women may be thinking in terms
of marriage when they are looking for a date on Saturday night, deep down in
their subconscious that is what they are thinking about.
Even if you are already married, this subconscious programming affects you.
Your wife may have been intelligent enough to make her decision about a life
partner and his ability to provide for the family on conscious thought, but
her subconscious programming still affects the way she views you. There are
times you don’t feel as though she respects you as much as she should
and that is because you aren’t “as much of a man” as you could
be.
This also affects your sex life. Even though your wife was attracted toward
your personality and character strengths when you got married, she isn’t
always as sexually attracted to you as you would like. Having a strong muscular
physique would send your wife’s hormones through the roof and you would
be getting all the action you could handle…and then some!
